I go through periods of extreme invincibility and tragic hopelessness.
I could have a week of amazing shows which leaves me with so much fuel for motivation and immediately after a week of no shows which makes me question the path forward in ways I don’t have legitimate arguments against.
It’s not easy and I haven’t figured out how to bypass it.
I’m not sure there is a way to…
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Quitting is easy: I quit everyday
January Recap: What worked and what didn’t?
Last week in Comedy: I performed in two continents
Quitting cause it’s hard 😔
I heard Alex Hormozi talk about this recently - When you’re in a situation, where you’ve taken up something difficult you’ll reach a point where you’re not sure if it’s worth carrying on and the opportunity cost seems too high and nothing is going your way and you’ve been doing everything you were supposed to and you thought you’d be much further along but you aren’t.
Just remember that when you started you knew this was going to be hard, WELL?
THIS IS WHAT HARD FEELS LIKE.
Simple yet so profound. It has an incredible way of putting the pain in perspective that’s easy to accept.
You knew it was going to be hard. Now you’re in the middle of a shit storm. This is what hard feels like.
No promises of a better future or learning something from the journey, just BRUTAL reality.
I remember now I used to feel the same way about going to the gym. I would start, do it a couple months, stop and repeat. The excuses in my head would get so good that I’d stop for a day, then two then a month. Until the guilt started weighing in again to resume.
This happened for like 7 YEARS. And I was furious, I remember thinking this doesn’t make any sense, either go all in or stop wasting your time. And so I got to diagnosing the problem. I realized the reason I kept quitting the gym is because I hated going to it, because lifting heavy is painful and it’s hard.
SO I asked myself what would make me want to go to the gym everyday no matter what happens in life?
If I enjoyed it so much that not going to it made me feel worse.
That’s when the switch flipped. All I had to do is learn to love the pain.
This sounds philosophical and impractical but at the gym it worked. I have rarely missed days and it’s all because of two things:
I learned to really LOVE the process of lifting and enjoy the process of getting 1 more rep.
I memorized the feeling of how amazing my mind and body felt after a workout. Recalling this feeling was enough argument against any excuse I would have to not go to the gym.
And as days passed I started getting better at loving the suck and feeling amazing and now it’s become a habit. I don’t have excuses because my mind knows it’s pointless. Going to the gym is only second to waking up in the morning, that’s it. If I wake up I have to go to the gym, nothing else.
Perhaps the same applies to comedy?
Everyday I wake up, I need to do something that moves the needle. Write a joke or do a show. That’s all. Every single day until it becomes a habit so second nature that anything else is unacceptable.
Maybe that will flatten the extreme highs and lows?
I don’t think the tragic hopeless will ever stop talking but this might just lower his volume. 🤷♂️
I’d love to know if you face the same struggle OR have found ways to block the uncertainty. Reply to this and lmk! ❤️
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Two continents in 1 week.
LA on Tuesday and Dubai on Friday. Weird Flex.
One went really well and the other was a learning experience 😂
We’ll chat more about it next week with videos!
- Talk soon Killers!